Legacy and Accountability: When heroes also harm

On January 26,�nine people�including basketball icon Kobe Bryant and his 13-year-old daughter, Gianna�lost their lives in a tragic helicopter crash. In the hours and days following Mr. Bryant�s death, people have wrestled with how to talk about�the legacy he is leaving behind.�Mr. Bryant was an activist�in many ways, including as a champion of women�s sports and an advocate for racial justice. He also�reportedly sexually assaulted�a 19-year-old woman at her place of employment 2003.

Two years following the assault, Mr. Bryant�s legal team engaged in extensive victim blaming�that included leaking the survivor�s identity, sexual history, and medical information to the public. These behaviors reinforced the danger of reporting those who harm to survivors around the world. The chilling effect was well-documented: reports of sexual assault�dramatically decreased�at the school that the survivor had been attending at the time of the assault. The message was clear:�powerful men can commit tremendous harm without�facing consequences.

In the aftermath of Mr. Bryant�s death, we again witness the world revere a man who caused harm. The active silencing of survivors continues. Online, those who bring attention to Mr. Bryant�s full legacy are experiencing harassment, threats, and verbal abuse and violence.�One reporter was suspended�from her job for tweeting about the rape case. The same voices saying �it�s too soon� to talk about the rape charge also said it was �too soon� in 2003 when it happened. The unfortunate truth is that there is never a �convenient� time to talk about sexual violence.

It is okay to grieve the legend and man that Mr. Bryant was and all the good he contributed. It is also okay to be angry or frustrated as a man who was credibly accused of sexual assault has that piece of his legacy sanitized. We are conditioned to see only heroes and villains, when the reality is that being fully human means we are all bits of both at different times in our lives.

There is also another layer to this: one tied to a history of white supremacy. Mr. Bryant was a Black man who reportedly sexually assaulted a white woman. There is a�historical legacy of Black men being falsely accused of rape by white women. There is a historical legacy of�valuing the experiences of white survivors over those of women of color,�especially Black women. There is a historical�legacy of pardoning white men�who commit the same crimes in ways we almost never pardon men of color, especially Black men. Mr. Bryant continues to be�victim of racism�as a Black man,�even in his death.

Black men accused of rape are forced to represent their entire community in ways white men are never expected to do. Sexual assault accusations against men of color are often used to justify racist behavior and language against the accused and their community. Additionally, the Black community is not given room, permission, or respect to grieve the loss of a member of their community without acknowledging that person�s flaws, whereas white people are not asked to account for that in the same way.

Mr. Bryant permanently altered a person�s life with his own violent actions. And yet, we can hold room for nuance. He also used his power and influence to�fight for racial equity�and to support�women�s sports. In the past few days, an interview where he glowingly spoke about his daughters caused #GirlDad hashtag to go viral, reminding all of us that daughters can continue legacies too, not just sons. �He�issued a public apology to the survivor�in the aftermath of the criminal trial�s dismissal, in which he apologized to the survivor and admitted that he may have committed a sexual assault. Only the survivor can truly attest if Mr. Bryant expressed remorse and repentance in a way that was fully satisfactory to her. Only Mr. Bryant knew if he was truly remorseful and recognized the harm of his actions. Only his family members, closest friends, and the survivor can decide how to reckon with forgiveness.

People who harm others � either through direct actions or by using power and influence to perpetuate harmful rape myths � must be held accountable. Sometimes those people are our heroes. It will be difficult, if not impossible, for us as a society to make progress on this if we continue to insist on viewing people as either all good or all bad, a hero or a villain, a winner or a loser.

But here�s what we CAN do: we can acknowledge that this is immensely complex and�we are not at all well-equipped to have a real conversation�about the messy and contradictory realities of people � especially those people we admire, idolize, and hold as our personal heroes. As our society continues the long journey of fully understanding the harm of sexual violence, we also wrestle with how we hold accountable those who cause harm, outside of the criminal legal system.

We can continue to underscore the importance of recognizing the entirety of someone�s existence when defining their legacy. We can demand that the media and public do not engage in anti-blackness or racism as they discuss this.�We can demand the media and public recognize survivors are watching. We can demand that the media and public do not excuse, justify, or otherwise rationalize sexual assault.

We are holding space for all who grieve for a hero � for the loss of parents, children, and spouses, the loss of community leaders, the loss of people who use their power to support their communities. We also hold space for the survivors who are hurting as people who cause harm have that part of their lives scrubbed away in our public consciousness. However you react and weave through these complexities is okay.

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